Process of Elimination ...

... by project that can be completed ... and those that cannot .... in gaining access to hidden comers of a once vibrant home ... 

... the next stage on ... from the start of another difficult phase of process of elimination commenced yesterday ... post funeral of a dear mother in law ... 

And the enlightenment of another living space emerging from underneath the disappeared again ... the initial mass clear ...  to another home in need of the same treatment done lovingly and mainly by a nephew, while I was rebuilding all the strands of life that disappeared. The death of a hubby in this cold,  dank, depressing environment. My Dad also dying during this time line ... 

 ... where the photos and other items from this home needing a process of elimination, a temporary home until moving to our daughters ... These items left to us to see fit on disposing of,  on behalf of an Auntie, Mum and Nana .. who was by now too frail to deal with it all ... 

The thought and logistics not planned out in a seamless way of a complex situation in the forgotten family needs post death of a hoarder. 

The secrecy of hoarders that stretches across all aspects of obsessions and compulsive and habits, be it drugs, alcohol, gambling, shopping, sex. The collecting of human waste in bottles or piled up, when the toilet is not accessed to clean and maintain in the usual way. This is much of the hidden society that is held in disgust ... 

The root cause exacerbated by life dfficulties ... In turn it can overwhelm even those on the front line ... 

In our case too ... the secrecy of putting things elsewhere ...  the fact that the likelihood of three generations of hoarding tendacies ... making me wonder .. is it genetic or environmental on photos recently in receipt and now in custodian of throwing up memories of the paternal, paternal home I first knew on arriving into the family ...